The video was pretty awesome!!

I think there could be another side to the aspirational clutter, its not a reason to keep things you rarely use but if you were to line up all the equipment, tools, stuff and junk and from all the things you have tried in the past it would tell a great story.

Here is what my line of stuff would look like. Firstly there would be a pile of costumes and props from my school life and all the drama productions that i loved so much, A rugby ball, a basket ball, a pair of skates, some circus equipment, a deck of cards and a poker table, a set of golf clubs, a set of skis, a snowboard, a laptop in which to design and write, a sketch pad, paints and canvas, an over sized motorbike, some gym equipment and probably a bunch of other stuff that i am forgetting.

As I mentally go through the items, some are things I still love but don’t have as much time for anymore, others are still very prominent in my life today. But when I look at it all i don’t see the person I wanted to be when I started them all stiffening who I am today, and I agree that letting go of that idea can be liberating and would strongly recommend that everyone gives it some thought. But for me I see a person who wasn’t afraid to try new things and get caught up in the moment and I hope that in ten years time I have a whole bunch more stuff to throw out that remind me of a life well lived.

I guess it comes down to accepting who you truly are and that who you are today may be very different to who you wanted to be in the past, and that’s ok.

I love the video posted above too, its so hard to stop and remember that your own view point is exactly that, only one view point and IT IS BIAS!!!!! in the video the women looked the most happy right at the end and in many ways the most beautiful too. being beautiful is as much about who you are and seeing beauty in your self, as it is about your outward appearance. I think it is easier to think about if you take a step back, stop thinking about your face, your tummy, your hips, your crows feet, or the shape of you back in my case, and ask yourself, what makes a beautiful person? I know that I am drawn towards warm eyes, welcoming smiles, a gentle nature and humility over the perfect ratio between your eyes nose and mouth, a flat tummy and long flowing hair. And those that can’t see deeper are destined to only enjoy the often fake outward surface of life.

I believe very deeply in the beauty of someone’s soul shining through, that’s why I smile at my reflection, so my inner image of myself has my light too … I forgot to mention that in the post… I was just referring to that society message of ‘should be beautiful’. Perhaps I’m feeling it more because right now I’m in LA?? The land of hope and beauty,xx

Please write about this topic too, I’d love to read it! It’s incredibly liberating to shake off the shoulds

I loved the video, everyone should watch it,xx

I am who I am today, now… It’s so liberating!

On a deeper level of course we all just exist in every moment. At the same time we all live in a world where our lives require some action, even if it’s so we can secure a roof over our heads and food in our tummies.

I guess I’ve been dealt a hand recently that turned my life upside down and the future I expected was taken away… and to some extent I knew how to behave on a daily basis because that security of a known future was there.

Now I don’t have that and I have to start rebuilding my life and try to figure out what I want and in turn how I relate to my future self and me right now. The only way I could figure that out was know which parts of me are so true and authentic that I’d be moving towards them regardless.

There were plenty of things that I wanted on my list that I couldn’t say was true… Like do yoga everyday! That falls into the fantasy future self the fairytale me I’d like to believe would happen that is about as laughable as me running everyday,xxx

This is not something I have ever written down, but the main ones are forgiving myself and others, accepting that everyone’s path is their own and just letting go – in terms of trying not to put to much pressure on myself and letting life take me where it needs to (with some intervention of course), but if I don’t get that job, then don’t sweat it; if it takes 6 months for the house sale to go through, go with it as ultimately, if its meant it will happen in it’s own good time!

This is one of my biggest learning curves at the moment. It is actually, quite liberating when you do just ‘let go’. I am so much more relaxed and I find I am not punishing myself quite so much!

I can appreciate the little things in life and feel better about other peoples triumphs. I just have to realise that not all things were meant right at this time when I want it to, but perhaps it is meant for others!

There are loads more, but this is how I am right now! Patience is the key!
Jx

Inspiration from people watching xx