“Live the story you want to tell”

I want to believe in a world that is kind and fun and inspiring and courageous. I want to trust that sharing myself and my gifts with the world will be a fun enchanting life. I want to socialise with people who do the same, embrace their gifts and who courageously share them with the world.

The words brave and courage come up a lot for me at the moment. I want to be the fearless warrior at the forefront of my story, living life fully and not shrinking into the background because I’m scared of being vulnerable or being wrong.

I understand that we have to embrace our vulnerability and be open regardless. Our hearts were full of love before they even started beating, I want my story to reflect that. I want my story to reflect a whole hearted love, full on trust, courage to move forwards and to embrace a life outside the norm as that appears to be the hand that I was dealt.

I know so many people who have been brought into this world for normal but glorious lives. Beautiful tender hearted women who were meant to be mothers and share their love and compassion with the new souls on this earth. Men who strive in business and are able to support their families and perhaps employee others, supporting a small community with jobs and a livelihood. These are beautiful glorious spiritual lives that our society holds as a norm.

Live the story you want to tell

Great quote isn’t it, I’m going to continue to ask myself this question. It’s fun for me to see a conversation take place in the comments, I’d love nothing more than to have a small community of like minded lovies here, so if you’ve got 2 minutes please tell me what would be the main themes in your story…

Love Fiona,x

I went to see a lovely friend of mine who said she thought I needed a spiritual cleanse and asked me if I was up for it… Yes definitely!! I might be a natural skeptic but I’m an open skeptic.

So there I stood in her beautiful apartment with her wafting sage all around me and I could hardly believe it when I started getting huge tingles up and down my body. I could feel my energy quicken even in just the couple of minutes she took wafting the sage around me. Incredible!!

I’m sure her intent had something to do with it, but now I know… There really is a magical quality about sage! It’s sparked an interest in me, now I want to know if all the other hocus pocus stuff has a magical quality.

Any suggestions on what I should try out first??

When our bodies feel weak, our mind is confused and unsteady. I put a quote from Buddha on my Facebook page the other day touching on that very thing.

Sometimes just knowing that our minds are lacking clarity because of our physical state is enough. Other times we need uplifting material to read. My favourite is scrolling through my Facebook page. In fact that’s the exact reason I started the page… I wanted somewhere to be able to go when I needed some uplifting material and I wanted to feel touched and loved by each and every word. It was one of my better side projects because it’s there for me when I need or want it.

I’ve done other versions of this type of thing before, like write quotes into notepads or write letters of love and support to myself. I love all that stuff, I love the all embracing loving compassion that comes with sitting so fully in our heart centre. But when we’re unwell how do we get to that beautiful space??

This is a post where I ask for your wisdom and your personal advice because right now I’m not 100% well. What do you do to build mental strength when your body is weak?
(Pls comment anonymously if you’d like)

It’s up to us who we want to be, we are ever evolving. But there are things that will always sit outside our real selves. So here I go decluttering my fairy tale or fantasy self and all the material clutter that comes along with our fairy tale selves.

I should be fit. I would loooove to have a treadmill, yoga mat, ballet bar and wall mirror… But I rarely do more than a 30 minute work out unless I’ve got a personal trainer stood with me. So if I want to get fit… I know I need to invest in a PT rather than an in home gym equipment.

I should paint. I recently let go of (re-homed) all my paints, art paper etc to a budding young artist. When ever I do art, I like to sketch the most so I never really need more than a pencil and piece of paper. You’ll have seen my Art of Energy Logo, I sketched that fairy one Christmas time when I was super relaxed.

I should be beautiful. Other things like the number of hair products I used to have, I had them because I felt like I ‘should’ do something to make myself beautiful. But the relief when I gave up and just accepted I have straight hair… End of!! I now only curl my hair (I looove curly hair) when I’m going somewhere nice and have ages to get ready. Same with make up, I never really got into wearing make up everyday but I had accumulated all sorts of beautiful make up because I bought into the idea that one day I might just be glamorous (FYI: I’m still totally open to that happening but I’m not expecting it anymore) so I keep things simple with a tinted moisturiser, bit of mascara and eye pencil when I feel like it. Other days its just good old aveeno cream moisturiser my favourite moisturiser!

Other junk that belonged to my fairy tale self… My old diaries, I was buying into the idea that my past had some kind of deep truth to teach me or maybe one day I’d write it all up in a book. Truthfully I had a quick look through… I’ve remembered the important things and thankfully forgotten a lot of the fluff e.g. Sarah and Clive are now together, but Sophie fancies Clive too (blah blah blah teenage melodrama). So I burned my diaries at the beginning of this year! It was very liberating!!

I think it was liberating because I was letting go of my fairytale self and my past self and embracing whoever I am right now today! A fun loving, straight haired, non exercising, non glamorous lady who loves to write, dance and share my spiritual gifts with the world.

Gosh that’s liberating to say!!

What aspirational clutter have you got weighing you down?

But is it?

No of course not, my future is as unpredictable as it always has been. I’ve just been thrown into the present in a relatively uncomfortable way, so it feels more unpredictable. But this presents a challenge… Goal setting and visualising when you feel like the world is unsteady isn’t always easy, so how do we proceed forwards? I spent a lot of time looking in the mirror for this because I wanted it to feel authentic.

What I’ve decided to do (I’ll let you know how it works out) is to take a look at my imagined future self and then choose to see her in me, now, today. Ultimately our future self never really exists anyway, the only thing we have control over is how we choose to behave today.

So if your future self were a yoga master or novelist or business person, take steps today to be that person today. I don’t just mean work towards the goal, I mean BE that version of yourself today. Dress the way they do, live the way they do, speak the way they do. In these moments we’re expressing our true nature right now.

If all we have is now, then our actions today become more important and urgent. If there is no future self, there is no time to put things off that really matter. You can be your future self today.

I’ll talk another day about our fairy tale self, but for now, play a simple game with me. Answer the question below…

How do you see yourself in the future? (It’s okay if some of these things you already do/are)
I see someone who is
- Smiley
- Writes daily
- Meditates daily
- Has published a book
- Known for my gifts

Now it’s your turn, feel welcome to write your answers in the comments below. How do you see yourself in the future?x

Sleeping badly upsets your insulin levels and you eat badly all day, keeping yourself hyped up on caffeine and in a state of mild anxiety all day. For those that care, you’re mostly in your sympathetic nervous system on days like this and your body is experiencing lots of stress hormones in a prolonged and unhealthy way. Your body does not repair and rejuvenate in this state and the cycle continues until you rest, properly rest.

I’m not here to tell you to sleep better by going to bed earlier (but you’ll know if you need to). I’m here to suggest that rather than cover up those tired eyes with make up… you consider creating a beautiful life so that your beauty shines through rather than just being a beautiful face of make up.

A beautiful life is very personal… What does a beautiful life look like to you?

To me today, a beautiful life looks like this:
• Not comparing myself to others – every time I notice myself judging or idolising I say to myself “they’re amazing and I’m amazing” and then I let it go.
• Building a positive self image – smiling at my reflection every time I see it. Even if I don’t want to, I’ll pull funny faces until I make myself laugh. When I think of myself I want to see myself smiling.
• Knowing what I want – more challenging than I expected when there are no limits, I’m still working on this.
• Making my life my own – having the guts to stand up for what I want, make sure my needs heard, make sure all the choices I’ve made are for me and not others (working hard at this and still learning).
• Being grateful – we hear it a lot but being grateful is outrageously important to creating my beautiful life. I want to be grateful and savour beautiful moments. Most of these moments include my friends and family but other times it’s the gratefulness that I live in a society where I am safe.
• Finding peace – with my mistakes, with my choices, forgiving myself and allowing myself to move forwards without the words ‘should have’ bearing down on my future.
• Using my gifts daily – seeing clients for healing, psychic readings, training or coaching. Writing, reading and researching. Knowing that I’m using my unique combination of gifts and who I am to be of greatest service whilst I’m here.
• Simplicity as my goal, lets not over complicate the simple things – living in a clean, simple space with beautiful useful things. Eating simple foods that nourish my body (meat, fish, vegetables, salad, rice, beans, pulses, fruit and chocolate – lol you weren’t expecting the last one unless you know me, chocolate is an important food group).
• Full of cuddles and love – my heart loves easily, I feel best wrapped in a cuddle and those moments are so beautiful they feel like eternity.

Okay I could carry on this list for ages!! Please feel welcome to write some things that help you create a beautiful life in the comments,x

This is a trap we all fall into and I’ve definitely been in and out of this type of thinking recently. The reason I’m writing about it today is because it dawned on me how unempowering these sneaky little thoughts can be. They buy into the illusion that we aren’t perfect and whole just as we are. They buy into the idea of separateness, which on a spiritual level just isn’t true.

So, my solution is to be the trait that you want to have in someone else. Rather than looking for the world to fill you up, look to do that for yourself. Be the fun, be the love, be the forgiveness, be the light! Be that today, right now.

The role of ‘lack’ in this spiritual message was there to guide you towards what you can do to fill yourself up. Those unempowering thoughts weren’t meant to circle round your head. They were supposed to be the guiding arrow. Once you’ve embraced the trait you wanted, I suspect you will realise a delightful little truth.

The truth is, you will know that this trait is the best gift you can give yourself and the world right now,x

When I learnt to write as a child I decided I wanted to be a writer, it was that simple and that straight forward. Specifically I wanted to write stories to be an author. What I didn’t know then is that my a passion for reading and writing would utterly shape my life, it made me great at school and uni because studying came easily to me and then it made me good at my job because there was a heavy research element to my role as a trainer. Oddly writing doesn’t have much of a place in my career as a psychic and healer … and so my blog was born.

What I never counted for was that I would lose hours upon hours writing and the more I wrote the more ideas that came to me. I don’t think they’re ideas dipped in gold dust but I love them, I love sharing them and it’s thanks to a lady who did a spiritual reading for me that I really started paying more attention to my writing, blogging and writing stories. Whether I have a skill or not, is not the point, it’s whether I love it and I do, it expresses a part of me that really sings. If other people enjoy reading it, then all the better.

Here is the lovely spiritual reading I mentioned: “Your words and wisdom help lots of people – you have healing words which are more far reaching than you anticipate. Poetry sings your voice to a beat and in this you are truly blessed as lots of people can benefit from those written words. You are like a fairy with your wand which you can wave to let the magic begin. Words are your power and you write them with gusto and depth which can penetrate deep in to the heart and souls of those who listen or read them. You are like a Shakespeare of our time. Keep writing as this is your strength. Paper and pen are well married with you as the master. You have an inspiring tongue which needs to be heard.”

Isn’t that lovely, it definitely inspired me!

What do you do purely for enjoyment?

One of the things that came up in a coaching session I did a long time ago with a client was to write down what qualities they feel they bring to the work place (if they struggled I got them to use the company values as a starting point) then I asked them to write down all the things they do/had done or achieved that highlighted those values in action.

It was incredibly rewarding for the coachee but I’d forgotten I went home and did the same myself… until today when I was going through one of my notebooks and found a list of all the wonderful achievements I’d had in that particular role. Talk about uplifting! It was especially great because I’d written it – I’d already acknowledged these actions as achievements and atributes I could be proud of in myself.

It was so uplifting that I thought I’d share the exercise with you incase it inspires you to do the same and enjoy the sweet feeling of achievement, even after the event!

Please share some of your achievements or personal favourite attributes that you bring to the work place or your life in general. It can be so uplifting sharing what we’re good at,x

The same is true for others, I never see people more sparkly than after a healing or when they’re feeling happy.

Happiness right now is always my choice!! Sometimes happiness doesn’t feel like the right word to me, sometimes contentment or love feels more appropriate but you know what I mean… That completely unreasonable state of being where regardless of what’s going on, you feel good!

I’m sure you’ve all heard of the phrase ‘Follow Your Joy’. Whilst it doesn’t tell you what specific action to take, I do think it’s a healthy ‘now’ attitude. Rather than becoming happy after whatever current challenge it is you’re facing is over, it invites you to feel good now, amidst the challenge. I feel like it says ‘life is life, there’ll always be challenge but in this moment where is your joy?’ The phrase invites you to move rather than feel stuck in your current state. It doesn’t push your happiness into the future (which of course we never get to because there is only now).

How many times have we all put off our own happiness by saying ‘oh after this is over, then I’ll relax… Then I’ll look after myself… Then I’ll start doing yoga… Then I’ll stop eating dairy that makes me feel sick… Then I’ll …’

Is there ever a better ‘now’? xx